Not long ago God began to tear down a few walls in my life that were built around my heart that I did not know existed. He used many hurting people, to break through my protective shield. Coming out of this state was not easy, because when we finally let down the walls and let other people in we are opening ourselves up to hurt.
It is true that hurting people hurt others, but those of us on the receiving end, must be careful that we don't become one of the casualties of the sharp tongues of the hurting. For years I listened to and assisted hurting people, so my protection for a few years was to stay away from the hurting, to learn how to handle the hurts of others in a different way.
Most people who are hurting do not realize that the words they are speaking to others are covered with barbed wire. Those of us who are the listening ears and Pastors for the hurting, must learn to be authentic, transparent, and open, and at the same time guard our hearts. It is a challenge when we are on the receiving end of the barbs. We must ask God to give us wisdom, discernment and understanding so we do not get sucked into the undertow of anothers pain.
Jesus brought people out of their pain, he did not crawl into their pain, stay there and allow their pain to pull him off of his mission. He loved them. cared for them, and even rebuked them. His mission was about people, but he could not help people if he wallowed in their pain with them. Jesus is about healing. He is about restoration. He is about redemption.
This week I am hurting a bit from a few words that were thrown at me with a tongue covered with barbs. Yet, I know that God calls me to forgive, and so I do. He calls me to be Jesus with skin on, and at the same time go to him with my own pain. He is the great physician.
A precious one went home to be with Jesus a few days ago, a friend was in a serious accident, I waited for biopsy results for a small child, messages and notes poured in and the relational pressure seemed to be pouring into my life from many directions.
Yet, as I sit here tonight I am doing ok, because in my journey of listening, giving guidance and praying with and for hurting people, I go to God and pour out my heart in prayer for the people that contact me. I am transparent with my pain in prayer before God and I connect with a friend,. She is willing to listen to me, we listen to one another, and she does not push me away.
I am comforted in knowing that;
Isaiah 43:2New International Version (NIV)
2 When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze
As Always, Serving with you,
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